10 reasons why you should always LOVE YOURSELF first

So, it’s the Valentines’ week! Couples are suddenly reminded to celebrate their love for each other with expensive gifts, cheesy messages; all the gift shops are loaded with pink and red V-day stuff. 🙄 While I have no issue with this, I just find it a little overrated when couples do some over the top gestures. Forget me, there’s actually an event in Mumbai on this 14th February,2018 where people are going to gather at a place and shout “Pyaar Ek Dhoka Hai” (Love is an illusion) for the lovestruck couples (Look for yourself. Search this tag on twitter- #PyarEkDhokaHai).

If you ask me, I love my husband and child the same on February 14th as every other day of the year. But do you know who is that one person whom I love more and more each day? No, it’s not my parents, not my friends, not even my ex. 😉  It’s just ME, yes simply ME! Of all the relationships in my life, the most serious one which has had a very significant impact on me is the one I have with myself. Do you know why you should put yourself first? Because this is what happens when you love yourself first-

Self-Care = True Happiness

  • You spend some ‘ME’ time – Having some ‘me’ time makes you feel more energized and helps you focus better. When you take out time for yourself- your family and close friends will surely show more affection because you are so full of life. It feels great to get to choose how you want to spend your time.
  • You put yourself on your priority list- In our hectic life, we often don’t have the time to breathe. Giving priority to yourself doesn’t mean you’re ignoring others (very often which is incorrectly believed as being ‘selfish’). No. It simply means you’re bringing out your best; you’re turning out to be strong.
  • You take care of yourself- You are full of self-love and don’t need people or things to fill up your love tank. You take the responsibility to fulfill your basic needs. You’re usually happy and in good health.

As Taylor Swift sings-

‘Cause the players gonna play, play, play, play, play

And the haters gonna hate, hate, hate, hate, hate

Baby, I’m just gonna shake, shake, shake, shake, shake

I shake it off, I shake it off

  • You reward yourself- Remember the time when we used to get ice creams or special meal made for us when we got good results? It’s nice to sometimes pat our self on the back and celebrate our accomplishments. This is what inspires us to keep on achieving more.
  • You are self-assured – You overcome self-doubt and are in control of your emotions. You take firm decisions that boosts your persona. You make time for your dreams. Ultimately you become someone of good repute.

You will be exactly as happy as you decide to be.

  • You make it through hard times – In any stressful situation, you always look for reasonable solutions. You have an excellent strength of getting through hard times without anybody’s support or guidance. This not only helps you to live a happier life but also grow as a person.
  • Your important relationships do better- When you fully understand your worth, you make suitable choices about who you want to be around with. You’ve a stronger connection with your loved ones and also start appreciating them.
  • You make clever choices for your better future You focus on lifelong plans completely for yourself. You make decisions that aim towards where you want to be in the future. You focus on deciding what’s truly important.
  • You know your worth in a relationship- You do not depend on someone to complete you. You do not constantly worry whether your partner loves you or not. You motivate yourself to take responsibility of your life. You’re strong enough to handle things on your own.
  • You create your own happiness– You treat yourself by actually doing the things you love- cooking something mouth-watering, going for a night out with friends, or simply binge-watching your favorite TV show. You have a growth mindset and know what works best for you to keep on improving yourself.

Yes, I’m happy. No, my life isn’t perfect.

I want you to tell this quote to yourself every morning.  Be happy, be selfish, think of achieving everything in life, and reward yourself. Know your worth. Go hang out with your friends (no better cure than this), try some newly launched grooming products or makeup kits, treat yourself with your favorite dessert. The world is waiting for you to shine on. And finally here’s Pharrell Williams cheering you up-

Because I’m happy

Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof

Because I’m happy

Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth

Because I’m happy

Clap along if you know what happiness is to you

Because I’m happy

Clap along if you feel like that’s what you wanna do

What are your self-care tips? What makes you happy? Please share your short stories in the comments. Come back soon to read my next article or subscribe to get it delivered directly in your inbox. Bookmark this page to save time in searching again. Have a nice day ahead.

13 Replies to “10 reasons why you should always LOVE YOURSELF first”

  1. I practice self care by treating myself to hand massages. I’m an artist, and my hands hurt often. Especially in the winter! So I do up a fancy hand bath, and break out the lotion. Happy hands make for a happy me!

    1. iammyinspiration says: Reply

      Really appreciate your effort to take out time for yourself. It is so important to treat ourselves regularly.

  2. Having an optimistic attitude goes a long way! (And now I will have that Pherrell song in my head to cheer me up all day! 😉)

    1. iammyinspiration says: Reply

      That song is actually stuck in my mind since I wrote the post. 😀

  3. Belle - twofeelswrite.com says: Reply

    Can’t agree with this more!!! I’ve always said: “If you and I are both drowning, I’m going to save myself first.” It’s not selfishness: it’s practical. How can I save someone from drowning if I’m also drowning?
    Love love love!
    -Belle
    http://www.twofeelswrite.com

    1. iammyinspiration says: Reply

      Exactly Belle, you can’t help others if you don’t help yourself first. 🙂

  4. I loved reading this post. I have been going through some tough times and I have been searching for anything and everything to help.

    1. iammyinspiration says: Reply

      I’m glad my post was helpful to you, Galen Elizabeth. 🙂 You can talk it out to me if you need anymore help. Simply fill the form on Contact Me page and I will reply asap.

  5. diaryofajamericanmom says: Reply

    Self care is key! You can’t pour from an empty cup!! Thanks for sharing

  6. I’m the sole caregiver for my husband that has a chronic illness along with a mental illness. I forget to take care of myself many many times.

    1. iammyinspiration says: Reply

      You’re doing a good job Gina. It requires a lot of effort and patience. And I can understand there’s no time for self when we’re dedicated to help someone else, but like I’ve said in my post, you’ve to take out time for yourself. This will ensure you’re able to help others more effectively, rather than out of duty. 🙂

  7. This is great advice. I took a week off from blogging even though I didn’t want to. Because I did, I feel refreshed and motivated to keep pushing my blogging aspirations forward again. Taking care of yourself and creating some balance in your life is often overlooked. Great piece!

    1. iammyinspiration says: Reply

      Very good decision Marc. Sometimes, we all need a break just to re-energize and come back with full focus. 🙂

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